I’m always hands-down, impressed whenever a bride is able to manage, plan, and coordinate her entire wedding from start to finish. There’s a reason why you pay professional wedding planners for their services. It’s not easy to make a wedding happen! Talking to and booking multiple suppliers, monitoring timelines, and whatnot. It really takes a village, and someone who has the highest level of organization and project management skills to be in the lead. So, how do Brides pull-off wedding planning and coordination themselves? We were curious about this, that’s why we talked to three brides who did not hire coordinators to find out. See how they worked their own wedding planning magic. Read on.
Melissa was spurred to plan and coordinate her own wedding because she already had an exact vision of what she wanted to execute to a tee. This bride wanted to make sure everything would go according to her plan, and she wanted to save some money while she was at it.
Creating a Mood Board
Melissa did her research, and scoured Pinterest for pegs to help her put together a retro groovy tropical themed wedding. “I only had two months to plan. I go through Pinterest a lot, and I guided my stylist and photographer. I even sent a mood board to my video and photo teams,” Melissa shares.
Planning According to What You Really Want
From mood board to real life, it was so fulfilling for Melissa to see all their plans finally come into fruition. We’re loving the cool shapes of the arcs that really do scream groovy! Clearly, Melissa achieved the look and feel she was going for. All her hard work paid off.
“One thing that made it a good experience for me was planning according to how I wanted it to be. My husband gave me the freedom to choose the theme, colors, etc.” she says.
Cyrene’s wedding fell within stricter quarantine protocols, which meant there were more restrictions on gatherings. So, her guest list was downsized to 10 people. But planning felt fun and easy for this bride, because she has always been the kind of person to get tapped for help in coordinating weddings!
“Having that experience in planning weddings helped us plan our wedding in less than two months,” says Cyrene.
Getting By with Help from Friends
“On the wedding day itself, the help we received was all from our friends,” shares Cyrene. While Cyrene was used to events, she also had a reliable Maid of Honor who assisted with styling the venue. The day before the wedding they made sure the carpet was in the right place, and the curtains were properly hung. This bride had the nitty gritty accomplished together with friends she and her groom could count on!
Letting Go and Having Fun
There probably is no such thing as a “perfect” wedding. Uncontrollable mishaps happen, but the more important thing to do is to let it be and still make the most out of your special day no matter what.
“Whenever we look back, we could honestly say that we did our best, and it was a fun wedding where we could just be ourselves,” says Cyrene.
Fel used to work in the events industry where she mostly handled weddings. Having professional experience certainly gave her all the tools she needed to plan her own big day. “I knew every step of the planning process, from choosing the date, booking suppliers, curating the theme, down to the smallest yet crucial details like crew meals and event timelines,” says Fel.
Knowing Your Non-Negotiables
“Knowing what you both want and setting your budget from the start definitely makes the wedding planning process a breeze,” Fel says. From the very start, Fel and her husband already decided that their wedding will be laidback. They initially wanted to have a beach wedding in Baler. Since it couldn’t push through, they decided to bring the beach vibe to the city instead. So, every other decision they made was then anchored on that very theme.
Fel adds, “We wanted to have a handaan at inuman sa bahay type of reception, since we just had 50 of our closest family and friends.”
Working Together as Partners
It really was a team effort between Fel and her husband. Though wedding planning may have been a tiring process, they worked together so well to make their dream wedding come true.
“My husband and I were really hands on the day itself, taking care of the suppliers, checking if everything was accomplished in between getting made up and photoshoots,” says Fel. She even had a timeline printed and posted on the bridal room’s door, which indicated the tasks, the people assigned, and additional notes.
“Aside from being our own coordinator, we also DIY-ed a lot of things for the wedding. We were the florist, event stylist, and cake decorator with the assistance of our families and fellow suppliers,” says Fel.