Dear Diary, This Is What We Learned While Patiently Waiting to Get Married

2020 was the year many claimed would be theirs, filled with magical moments and milestones to be celebrated. A couple of months into the year, however, everything changed and the world was left to face a new reality that’s here to stay. Soon-to-be-wed couples will forever bond over the unique way they were all affected. Almost a year later, we’ve seen many stories unfold—some happily married after simpler ceremonies, others still patiently waiting for safer times.

Dear Diary, This Is What We Learned While Patiently Waiting to Get Married

It might have felt like a fairytale the first few months of the engagement, but after time passed, different feelings started to kick-in—from eagerness to move on to the next chapter, to complete comfort with the person you’ve chosen to spend your life with, and even numbness at the mention of wedding plans. To empathize with fellow brides-to-be, we’re sharing 6 love lessons brides learned while planning a wedding during a pandemic. Can you relate to all the feels? Feel free to share your wedding woes with us as well!

Priorities are everything

The pandemic has been hard on businesses, health, and relationships, to name a few, and it is during these difficult times you realize what truly matters the most. It somehow gets easier and easier to let go of the things you thought you needed to have on your dream wedding, but how does this happen? The things you thought were needs are simply overshadowed by the need to be married and start your life together.

We decided we will push through no matter how simple and intimate because we are sure about each other and the uncertainty surrounding the wedding is not enough reason to change our life plans and timelines.

Some of the best things in life take time.

Weddings were postponed because couples unknowingly thought the pandemic would end soon, then once society had a better understanding of the new reality, it was because restrictions wouldn’t allow social gatherings. It is a difficult to task to wait for an indefinite period of time, but when you take this time to further better yourself and your relationship, the outcome might just be worth the wait.

Patience is really a virtue, but when you've been together as long as we have (7 years), you just want to live together and build a life together already. We've grown as a couple and learned to value our relationship more without relying on labels.

Love is a decision.

Wedding planning has its fair share of ups and downs. The more experienced advise engaged couples to enjoy the process since “it’s good practice for when you’re married.” It’s important to remember why you want to be together in the first place when arguments or disagreements arise. It won’t be an easy ride, but you get the hang of it sooner when you accept your partner’s flaws and choose to love him or her regardless.

Love is a decision. There will be times when you feel like you really hate each other, but despite the hatred and everything, you still choose to be together and love each other.

There is so much to look forward to in marriage.

You can dream of having the most beautiful wedding while still wanting something more at the same time. It is only natural that you feel more excited and productive when discussing your future home, strategies for the family budget, and all the places you aspire to take the kids to one day. There’s just something so motivating about having conversations like these with your partner for life!

We started with plenty reasons to postpone, but we eventually realized that there were more reasons to push through. We don't want to waste any more time waiting. We want to spend our time moving forward and building a future together.


It's fun to plan a wedding, but it's also exhausting.

Guests constantly want to check in on the plans, and sometimes, they are brazen enough to ask if they are still invited. The few times you’re not asked about the wedding at the start of an interaction, the conversation almost always jumps to the wedding when either of you utter the words “my fiancé.” It is exciting most of the time, but admittedly there are times you would prefer to talk about almost any other topic.

Sometimes, I just want to wake up and it's the wedding day already. It's not as easy as I thought to plan a wedding and think about all the guidelines and preferences of my family members.

Continue to love each other—nothing matters more.

Family and friends may have expectations for the wedding, but you eventually realize that they would support and be happy for you no matter what. Your wedding is supposed to be one of the happiest days of your lives after all, so it only makes to follow your hearts when planning it. The most important thing is your commitment to each other. The bad days, the changes, the disagreements—they won’t even make a dent on your story.

No matter what happens in life, as long as we keep loving each other and be by each other's sides, then we can get through anything. There will always be bad days, but if we choose to focus on the good days, then there's nothing that can get in the way.

Are you also feeling like you’re ready for the next step? Have you run out of answers to the question “Why wait?” as well? Why not start on your happily ever after sooner rather than later? Check out our guide to planning a wedding in 30 days or less here.


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