Entering a relationship, one would expect that they’re going to be equal with their partner. The same amount of giving and taking, the same level of emotional investment, and both prioritize the happiness of the other. But what does an “equal” partnership even mean? These are just some truths you need to keep in mind in order for you to be able to build a healthy relationship with your partner.

We’ve said this before, and we’ll say it again! It takes a bit of sacrfice. And in order to arrive at a common ground, sometimes it means having to give up things you like. A little bit of sacrifice goes a long way, and talking it out with your partner is always a good idea. Remember, in the end, it will produce a positive or better outcome.

Usually, couples who have been together for a long time say something like, they just weren’t the same people they used to be when they first got together with their partners. While there is some truth to it, don’t let this intimidate you! Newsflash: Our personality and tastes evolve throughout the years–so, you really won’t be the same person as compared to five years ago when you and your beau first got together. But the key is to grow together, not apart. Push each other further to become better, support each other in all the new things you want to try out, compliment each other for all the big and little things, and be honest with yourselves. You’ll have highs and lows, but having each other will always be that beautiful constant through it all.

A relationship really takes work. You’re not only committing yourself to another person, but you’re also investing a huge part of yourself. You have to take care of this, and that requires effort. Don’t ignore warning signs or problems, and always make room for quality time, surprises, or genuinely thoughtful things you want to do for your partner even if you’re busy. These little acts will not go unnoticed–and definitely won’t seem small to them either!

For every major decision that you have to make, whether it’s for the present or the future, working together hand in hand will always be the best option. You get to hear each other’s opinions regarding the matter, and this can prevent any misunderstanding in the long run. Important stuff like finances and careers should be openly talked about as well, and not just shouldered by one person.

This is probably one of the most common mistakes couples make. You’re not in a relationship to fill a void or because you want to get something out of it. Love is selfless. Being in a relationship means you genuinely love and care for your partner, and you want to see them happy. And if they feel the same for you, you won’t have to ever second guess if they truly love you or not because they don’t think about themselves either–they think about you. Don’t overthink it by matching everything you do for each other.