Weddings come with a lot of excitement, and a lot of expenses. Starting a new chapter together isn’t always easy on the wallet, either. That’s why many couples today would rather receive cash gifts instead of another kitchen appliance that might just gather dust.

But here’s the big question: Is it rude to ask for money instead of traditional gifts? The short answer is, not really — as long as you go about it thoughtfully.

Today’s couples are often combining households, paying for their own weddings, or saving up for big milestones like buying a home or traveling. So while a pretty salad spinner is nice, practical support sometimes just makes more sense.

Plus, experiences like a honeymoon or investing in a future home can be way more meaningful than a toaster, no matter how shiny it is.

Not if you handle it with a little care and tact!

At the end of the day, most guests genuinely want to celebrate you and support your new life together. Many are happy to give a gift that feels meaningful. And if that means contributing to your honeymoon or first home fund instead of buying a physical item, they’re often more than willing.

The key is all in the approach. Asking for cash should feel like a gentle invitation, not an expectation. It’s important to make it clear that their presence is the real gift, and anything extra is simply a bonus. Being polite, thoughtful, and warm about how you share your preference makes all the difference.

Instead of making it sound like you’re charging admission to your wedding, frame it around what the gift will help you build: A lifetime of adventures, a cozy first home, or unforgettable experiences together.

Handled with kindness, it won’t come across as rude at all! Just practical, heartfelt, and modern.

If you’re leaning toward cash gifts, here are some polite (and stylish!) ways to ask without making it awkward:

Set Up a Cash Registry

Many online wedding registries now offer a “cash fund” feature where guests can contribute toward specific goals, like your honeymoon, home renovations, or even future date nights. This feels personal and gives guests a clearer idea of what they’re helping you build.

Use Thoughtful Wording on Your Website

If you have a wedding website (and you should!), it’s the perfect place to gently share your preference.

Let Family Spread the Word

If you’d rather not put anything in writing, a tried-and-true method is to let your inner circle — parents, siblings, bridal party — spread the message when guests ask about gift ideas.

Bonus: It feels even more personal coming from someone close to you.

Asking doesn’t have to be tricky! Peek at our guide for easy, more thoughtful wording ideas.

When asking for cash gifts, remember to keep it thoughtful and gracious. Always make it clear that giving is completely optional and no one should feel pressured.

Whatever guests choose to give, big or small, a heartfelt thank you goes a long way. And most importantly, never lose sight of what truly matters: Their presence on your special day is the greatest gift of all.

Asking for money as a wedding gift isn’t tacky, it’s just modern! It’s all about the way you frame it: Focus on sharing your future dreams rather than simply asking for cash.

With a little warmth and the right words, your guests will be happy to celebrate your next big step in whatever way feels right to them.