Relationships are simply like road trips. Most of the time, you feel like you’re having the best joyride ever and you wish it would never end. Sounds pretty exciting, huh? But ladies, as you take the longer route (and by that, I mean marriage), that’s when the real journey begins. Sometimes, the road gets bumpy and a little too rough. Living under the same roof can reveal a lot about your partner in ways you never could have imagined. And then there you are having your very first big fight as a married couple. But hey, don’t freak out, fights are normal. And we’re here for a little pep talk.
Marriage, just like any other relationship, is also about openness. We have to completely open ourselves for this to work in the long run.
Communication plays a vital role here. Try to openly and honestly communicate your feelings to avoid misunderstandings. You can’t just guess or assume that everything is okay when you feel something is wrong. Discuss it with your partner, and talk to him personally as soon as possible. Avoiding the issue won’t help, and may cause bigger problems in the future if not immediately addressed. But you know what else you should consider? Timing. It’s not advisable to lay out everything when you’re both too emotional. So take the time to compose yourself first.
And when you finally get the chance to talk, listen with an open mind. Accept the truth no matter how ugly or painful it is. Try to put yourself in your partner’s shoes. Think carefully before overreacting. Sincerely apologize, especially when you’re at fault, or even if you just unintentionally hurt them. It may not be easy, swallowing your pride, but for you to clearly understand the situation, you have to remind yourself of the main reason you’re in your marriage in the first place.
Not only will you have to listen with an open mind, but also with an open heart. You have to keep trusting each other and fight for your relationship to work. Love not only means loving their strengths, but most importantly their weaknesses too. Accept them whole-heartedly and adjust accordingly. Maybe you’re getting tired of hearing this, but the bottom line is always compromise. When you’re having a big fight, it’s pretty normal to feel upset. But don’t focus on how hard your marriage can be, instead, focus on the love that you have for each other, and everything else will follow.
Getting married is just the beginning of your journey to forever. We can’t promise there won’t be any bumps along the way, but we’re pretty sure you two have definitely got this. You just have to learn from those difficulties and help each other grow. Just embrace the present, continue to love each other, and fully enjoy the ride together.